Comments on: Are we so different?

By: Maddie

Maddie — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 15:40:42 +0000

Hey Rachel. Only just caught up with your blog as I have been out of the loop for a while.
Fantastic photos, love them. And that red dress of yours is nothing short of sublime! Have to say the (new?) long hair looks great too.
I’m not good at accepting compliments either and know exactly where you are coming from when you say you try to play them down and end up offending someone. If I had a pound for every time ……………….

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 20:41:54 +0000

Funnily enough Vanessa said she didn’t recognise me, too.

It’s true, as I relaxed into the shoot I was consciously trying to flirt with the camera, and I think some of the shots worked out really well.

And yes, I’m over the moon with the results. :)

I haven’t shown my partner. I think the better I look the more peeved she’d be in all honesty. So I’m erring on the side of caution. She knows I’ve had the photoshoot, but unless she asks I’m not going to say anything.

Unwanted admirers have been dealt with politely, but firmly. No real trouble there, touch wood.

A word of warning - photoshoots are addictive. I’m not saying anything yet, but the next one will be different. Still going to be Trans Femme doing the makeup and taking the shots though.

By: Julie Budd

Julie Budd — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 11:49:59 +0000

Rach!!

I’m gob-smacked. You ‘ve had some excellent and lovely photos in the past but these are incredible. Is it really you? They really bring out the beautiful woman in you! If I can look half as glamorous ,stunningly feminine and dare I say it, flirty, as you do then I will be more than delighted.

I especially liked the ones were you were smiling and teasing the photographer. Move over Kate Moss.

I am so pleased for you. I can only imagine how great it must feel to see the results of having that shoot done.

Can I ask
1. How does your partner feel about it.
2. How are you gonna cope with unwanted admirers?

Julie
xx

By: Lynn Jones

Lynn Jones — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 15:27:53 +0000

> cheeky mare. :)

LOL. Sorry. I couldn’t resist.

I know what you mean about compliments (not that I get that many and no, I’m not fishing for them now). I wonder if it’s that famous British reserve that makes us both elate and cringe when someone pays us a compliment? It is hard to say thanks in different ways, but I think it’s the feeling behind them rather than the wordage that makes the difference.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 23:23:56 +0000

Thanks Alan. I might as well say so here, for the record, I’m lousy at accepting compliments.

Sometimes I even make what I think are witty remarks to play down a compliment and end up offending the very person who has taken the trouble to give it, which is never my intention.

I hope it doesn’t sound big-headed, but I’ve had a lot of compliments from various quarters lately so my reactions have been bothering me to the extent that I’ve edited my responses to make amends.

I guess I’m just not used to it. It troubles me that I may not be responding in a way that truly expresses my appreciation. And it’s also difficult to come up with different ways of expressing that appreciation. How many times can you say “Thank you” before it starts to sound repetitve?

I hope this doesn’t sound like I’m whinging because I’m really not.

Can I just say I’ve been really touched by all the nice things people have said. I’ll shut up now.