Comments on: The Knowing and The Telling http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/2009/07/07/the-knowing-and-the-telling/ Thu, 02 Sep 2010 20:47:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Alex http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/2009/07/07/the-knowing-and-the-telling/comment-page-1/#comment-846 Alex Sat, 06 Feb 2010 11:28:20 +0000 http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/?p=525#comment-846 @Sandra TBH, it wasn't easy at all. I turned it over in my mind for about a year. You see, my wife didn't want me to say anything which I had to weigh against my feelings about lying to the children as to my whereabouts. So it wasn't easy at all. All I can say is it turned out to be the right thing for me to do. On the other hand, if my girls had taken it badly I still think it would have been the right thing to do as in I would no longer be lying about my whereabouts. I think I could have cope with any disapproval. So, once again, I can't stress enough that it's down to each individual and what might be right for one may not be so for another. Good luck with whatever you decide, Sandra. @Sandra TBH, it wasn’t easy at all. I turned it over in my mind for about a year. You see, my wife didn’t want me to say anything which I had to weigh against my feelings about lying to the children as to my whereabouts. So it wasn’t easy at all. All I can say is it turned out to be the right thing for me to do. On the other hand, if my girls had taken it badly I still think it would have been the right thing to do as in I would no longer be lying about my whereabouts. I think I could have cope with any disapproval.

So, once again, I can’t stress enough that it’s down to each individual and what might be right for one may not be so for another.

Good luck with whatever you decide, Sandra.

]]> By: sandra http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/2009/07/07/the-knowing-and-the-telling/comment-page-1/#comment-844 sandra Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:24:43 +0000 http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/?p=525#comment-844 Alex Thanks for making this sound so easy. I know one day I will need to do this. (come out to my girls) well done you. Sandra XX Alex
Thanks for making this sound so easy.
I know one day I will need to do this.
(come out to my girls)
well done you.
Sandra
XX

]]> By: Alex http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/2009/07/07/the-knowing-and-the-telling/comment-page-1/#comment-813 Alex Sun, 13 Dec 2009 18:36:33 +0000 http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/?p=525#comment-813 @Jenny I'm sorry that you had an adverse reaction to your father's revelation, but the implication that this would be the case for all or even most children, I believe, would be very wide of the mark. However, if there is any supported evidence for your assertion, other than your particular case, I would be very interested in finding out more. @ Everyone Unfortunately, for transgendered people, it seems that everyone else's feelings appear to be more important. And let's face it, how many transgendered people have tried to hide the fact, and what of the damage to their mental health as a result? These are very serious issues and there are no easy answers. But one thing I'm certain of is that dialogue needs to be opened up and remain open for any sort of positive outcomes to happen. @Jenny I’m sorry that you had an adverse reaction to your father’s revelation, but the implication that this would be the case for all or even most children, I believe, would be very wide of the mark.

However, if there is any supported evidence for your assertion, other than your particular case, I would be very interested in finding out more.

@ Everyone Unfortunately, for transgendered people, it seems that everyone else’s feelings appear to be more important. And let’s face it, how many transgendered people have tried to hide the fact, and what of the damage to their mental health as a result?

These are very serious issues and there are no easy answers. But one thing I’m certain of is that dialogue needs to be opened up and remain open for any sort of positive outcomes to happen.

]]> By: Jenny http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/2009/07/07/the-knowing-and-the-telling/comment-page-1/#comment-812 Jenny Sun, 13 Dec 2009 00:01:16 +0000 http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/?p=525#comment-812 You are really decieving yourselves here. When I was 15 my father told me this. It was horrific. Children don't visibly react because they cannot. It ruined my life. You are really decieving yourselves here. When I was 15 my father told me this. It was horrific. Children don’t visibly react because they cannot. It ruined my life.

]]> By: Alex http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/2009/07/07/the-knowing-and-the-telling/comment-page-1/#comment-789 Alex Mon, 31 Aug 2009 15:31:18 +0000 http://www.tvdreams.co.uk/?p=525#comment-789 @Lynn Yes good point! They'd have no probs outglamming me :) I have two very pretty girls, even if I do say so myself. In fact, now that I think about it, they're the two prettiest girls in the whole wide world - and yes, I'm biased. @Vanessa It was beginning to nag more heavily at me during the past year or so. @Lynn Yes good point! They’d have no probs outglamming me :) I have two very pretty girls, even if I do say so myself. In fact, now that I think about it, they’re the two prettiest girls in the whole wide world – and yes, I’m biased.

@Vanessa It was beginning to nag more heavily at me during the past year or so.

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