Yeah, I know, I’ve been here before, remember? I changed my name to Morgan and then hastily reverted to Rachel. Reason being it felt so strange to have a new name after all these years.
This time, however, it’s been thought through and I have specific reasons for wanting to make the change.
I know some tgirls see themselves as having two separate personnas, and of course having a femme name makes complete sense, but having been there and done that I’ve found that for quite some time I’ve regarded Richard and Rachel as one and the same. There’s no changing my mannerisms or voice to adopt a more girly demeanour. I’m just me, but with a different set of clothes and make-up and a wig.
So, I’ve decided a unisex name is what I want. Hence Alex. The surname, Kingsley, has a history, but I’m skipping over that. Later, depending on circumstances, I may change my name by deed poll, but that won’t happen (if at all) for another 2/3 years minimum. And no, this has nothing to do with thinking I may be TS. If you have to stick a label on me it would be gender queer or TV – even though I don’t agree with the dictionary definition of the term transvestite.
All this is more to do with aligning my male/female traits thus recognising I’m one and the same – Alex, regardless of what I’m wearing.
Now this, dear reader, may seem weird for you if you know me, but trust me, it’s even weirder for me, so please bear with me on this, and thanks for your patience. :)
Alex Kingsley
thanks for the explanation Alex .. good luck with getting used to the new name… and getting everyone else used to it too!
I know, it’s going to feel very weird for a while, but I have a strong sense of needing to do this as Richard/Rachel are one and the same, so I’d much rather just have the same name. Of course, there’s no guarantees I’ll do a change of name deed poll but feel it’s better to change my given femme name now rather than later – god, I hate that term “femme”. probably irrational, but there you go.
I does make things a bit easier! I hope I can remember it :-)
Bah. Curse my hamfistedness. “I does make…” Good grief. It reads like a bad Ali G tribute. :-)
Oh for a delete button…. or better still, maybe I should just re-read what I’ve put :-)
What I (hopefully) meant to say is that I hope it makes it easier for you. The name thing can be a bit tricky.
God luck with your new name Alex . It’s a great name.
Gabriela Julie Budd xx
All the best with the name change Alex.
Its also easier to type. :o)
Thanks for that Sophie. I do like positives. :)
Thanks Lynn. I think it will and there’s been lots of positive feedback – I feel I’ve had a lot of support. It’s feeling a little bit less weird and with time Alex will feel just as natural as Rachel. :)
Thanks Gabriela.
Alex , hope you feel at one now with your name any thing you can do to feel better in ones self has to be good !!!! take care hun xxxxsharon
Your blog makes perfect sense to me Alex, it seems we share very similar views in our approach to our hobby. I feel pretty much the same about dressing in that I’m just me, only wearing female clothes and make-up. There are female traits that I adopt when dressed but mainly just how I stand and walk, voice, attitude and personality remain unchanged. Thanks for e-mailing me and I still hope to bump in to you someday. Sabrina xo xo
Ah, now I understand… wondered what the strange name attached to your face when you left a comment on my blog yesterday. Seems you’ve changed your feed URL as well so it wasn’t til l I came looking that I found out.
Best of luck. Sure I’ll get used to it eventially. :)
First of all girls, apologies for taking ages to approve your comments – you won’t have to go through that again, as it’s only the first comment that needs approving. Problem was I’ve been ill with a stinker of a head cold and I’ve only just logged into my WP account for the first time in about a fortnight!
@Sharon: I’m sort of getting to where I want to be, but it all takes time and I’m in no rush. :)
@Sabrina: We’re not so very different are we? What I mean is, I dare say it’s a familiar feeling to a lot of T-Folk.
@ Clarissa: I think you echo the thoughts of a number of long-suffering friends when it comes to getting used to the name. Me included!