As much as this may annoy Jo of “Checklist Paranoia” fame (only kidding Jo) I do feel I’ve ticked another box.
In truth, this was never an aim of mine: To tell one’s eldest sister. To get things into perspective, she’s considerably older than me – I have to say this to make myself look younger – just retired in fact, allbeit earlyish retirement [keep digging].
Anyway, deliberately keeping some of the details and background leading up to my revalation from you dear reader, I phoned my sis yesterday and asked if I could come see her immediately. She agreed.
During the 124 mile journey I went over and over in my mind what I was going to say. I developed a very quirky timeline of factors and events, some of which were not connected with my transvestism, but necessary for her to get the whole plot.
I have to admit to not knowing what her reaction would be – she has some quite traditional views, so I wasn’t sure how she’d take to the news. Yet another anti-climax. In that this is the third or fourth time I’ve told someone and yet again the reaction was it’s your life, no worries, and no I didn’t have a clue.
She’s totally supportive, has now told her husband whose fine with it too. In fact, on the subject of telling my two girls, they’ve both agreed I should do so. Not only that, my sister’s husband has suggested what my sister and I consider to be a better plan. And this is knowing that my wife disagrees with telling the girls. As they said, she’s not always right.
I have another sister and brother-in-law in New Zealand, who again, I want to tell face-to-face so it’s been agreed that eldest sister and husband won’t say anything to anyone until I get my opportunity. And no, it’s not an excuse for a holiday, I just feel I must be there when they get to know. No hiding behind Skype!
I’m not intending leaving it too long before I speak to my eldest daughter, so wish me luck!
Okay: good luck! :-)
I feel it’s a bit of a risk telling family. Do you *really* know how they’ll react? Still, it’s different for us all. Nice to hear a postitive reaction though.
Good luck Rachel.
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There were other factors that I alluded to, which meant that not telling my sister now could lead to complications later, so I decided to bite the bullet. I mentioned that up ’til now I had no intention of telling my family, but circumstances change and I’ve adapted. Sorry I can’t be more specific. More may come out in the wash later, we’ll see.
Of course, everyone has their own judgement call to make, and I’d never recommend others do what I’ve done, coz they’re the best judge’s of their own family.
But on another note, by not telling family we then have to hide/keep quiet about what we do, which quite frankly is ridiculous. As my sister said, if folk have a problem with it they should deal with their issues, and I’m inclined to agree.
For sure, though, we all have to make our own decisions and live with the consequences. :)